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Suggested ways to develop EQ

 Build self awareness taking time away from distractions for a while each day.  Mindfulness, mindful movement, just watching the world go by without distractions, time away from electronics etc. is the starting point. Learn how your emotions feel, and learn to allow them.  Learn your emotional triggers - what is going to wind you up?  Forewarned is forearmed. You can't develop stratagies for what you don't know.  And you can't grow from a wobbly, unstable base so the grounding and centring is important. Accepting an emotion (eg frustration when something isn't going your way) is the first half of the equation, from there I need to ask myself what I'm going to do about it in a calm way - throwing a tantrum isn't a calm way, it's how things go belly up and you "spoil" something good.  But being frustrated is allowed, it's valid and you are allowed to act on it, just in a way that is safe, sensible, acceptable and "grown up" eg taking a ...
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Emotional Inteligence (working from a UK Coaching resource pack)

  Emotional Intelligence: Being the Best Version of You - UK Coaching Emotional Inteligence can be split into personal and social skill areas.  It reflects on how well a person can self regulate, be self aware, be aware of others and manage relationships with others. Awareness of Self It is about managing emotions - not supressing them, but recognising them and leaning into them in a healthy manner or putting them to one side in that instance and dealing with them when it is safe and apropriate to do so.  So, how do I react under pressure?  Honestly?  Not well.  I do recognise that I'm not good under pressure and I try to avoid conflict where I can to avoid the unpleasant feelings it causes.  This is tricky in life, and especially in playing sports.  Whereas half of me wants to compete and grow through that, a huge chunk of me is genuinely fearful of failing, and thus failing the team and how I will react to that. Awareness of Others Oh, hello Aut...
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Gosh this feels like a blast from the past!

 I used to be a "mummy blogger" years ago, recording the highs and lows of home educating.  I now have a fully fledged adult so no more wittering on about xer then.  However, I am still learning, as we all do, and the million notebooks I scribble down things in are proving to be a less and less useful way to record useful information.  So back to blogging it is.
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